The flow of sexual feeling. Magnetic attraction.

All natural forces flow between two poles.

North + South Poles of the Earth.
Positive + Negative battery poles.

There are attracting and complimenting opposites all around us.

Light + Dark.
Sun + Moon.
Yin + Yang.

𝗦𝗲𝘅𝘂𝗮𝗹 𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗶𝘀 𝗯𝗮𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝗼𝗻 𝘀𝗲𝘅𝘂𝗮𝗹 𝗽𝗼𝗹𝗮𝗿𝗶𝘁𝘆.

𝗠𝗮𝘀𝗰𝘂𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗲 + 𝗙𝗲𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗲.

If you crave PASSION, you must create the contrast and POLARITY in your relationship.

As seen in chemistry, atoms are bound together with protons (with a positive charge) + electrons (with a negative charge).

It is the polar opposites that create an energetic pull.

The most important thing to learn here:

The Masculine is NOT directly or necessarily associated with men.

The Feminine is NOT only seen in women.


The question is, which is your TRUE essence?


  • logical, driven, decisive, present, structured, focussed, goal-orientated, supportive, penetrative


  • creative, fluid/flowing, sporadic, open, magnetic, nurturing, empathetic, intuitive, receptive

We are in a CONSTANT alchemisation of the two, at all times.

It is NOT A SWITCH, of one or the other.

It is a dance. A dance of different ways of showing up and different ways of BEING. Both within ourselves as well as a dance within our relationship dynamics.

man and woman kissing together on body of water


Each of the bodies engaging will embody the opposite polarity.

Otherwise, like magnets, you will REPEL each other and lack chemistry, attraction, desire and passion.

We see and feel this often when our relationships start to feel stale, lack intimacy or become mere companions.

Yes, all relationship dynamics shift, develop, morph and evolve over time. Change is inevitable. But you have the power to shift it in the direction of your deep desires and create the connection, love and sexual energy you crave.

Here’s a question to help you get started:

If you had full range to do anything you’d like to do or be in a day… from the examples of what each looks like above, what would you choose to do? This can help decipher your true essence and true nature, regardless of your physical gender body or emotional, multidimensional capacity.

Do you feel you’re more a Masculine or Feminine energy body?

Really dive and lean into this and explore yourself in order to empower the dynamic between you and your lover. 💋

I desire MORE than a friendship or a platonic, housemate connection. Do you?

If you crave variety, range or ravishing, learning how to access your different parts, energies and sexual essence through self expression and growing your awareness is paramount.

There is SO much more to this powerful topic of polarity and how it can fuel passion and intimacy in our partnerships. This blog is just an introduction.

My most recommended relationship and ‘inner growth work’ reads I suggest for my coaching clients are listed here for you to check out.

Our capacity to deeply connect and love with an other is usually limited by our capacity to connect and love OURSELVES.

I invite you join me and explore 1:1 self awareness coaching for your own energetic expansion and to fine tune your polarity for playtime in partnership.

Reach out to arrange a free chat together to discover how I can help you create deeper connection and love beyond your blocks.

Big love,

Sarah McLachlan

Ps. For more juicy tips on creating more passion, play & pleasure in partnership – and in your life – head over to my Instagram @iam.sarahmc.

Sarah McLachlan | Body Wisdom Activation Leader

Activate + connect with the wisdom of your body to lead your life with love. Move from overwhelm + uncertainty to radiating clear, calm confidence. Trust yourself, + your innate knowing, to pursue the big message + mission in your heart. Bravely express yourself with soul-aligned truth + authentic courage. Lead your life with joy + light into your next level or chapter of fulfilment. FORMAL CERTIFICATION IN: Somatic Experiencing, Bch. Applied Science (Physiotherapy, 15 years) Subconscious Mind + NLP, Timeline Therapy, Inner Child + Family Systems Healing, Nervous System Regulation, Polestar Pilates, AntiGravity Yoga, Barre Attack, Quantum Physics + Energetics + Elite International Athlete Join me at @iam.sarahmc IG Sarah McLachlan x


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